herr masterile on tekkinud PRUUT:
ENT!
kuna herr master on neljakümbine, siis kitsarinnalistel on tekkinud probleem, mille üks armukade daam võttis kokku järgnevalt:
Even if i didn’t think a grown man, pursuing and initiating
a sexual online relationship with a teenager was completely inappropriate. Even
if he hadn’t convinced her to let him hypnotize her a practice he him self has
stated is used by men to manipulate naive young women online. Even if she
hadn’t only turned 18 about 2 months before he initiated contact and even if
the relationship turned sexual in less than a few months.
There is still the fact that he was in a position of
influence, like a teacher or a rock star or an actor, a therapist. From the
outset she was completely enthralled with the fact he was even talking to her.
Counting that in with everything above… it makes me uncomfortable.
If i understand things right there will be attacks and
arguments leveled at me and counted among those will be that this man has
improved this girls live in various ways. I say only this. What on earth would
have prevented him from doing these things in a platonic way? Because by using
that as a defense of a sexual relationship, you are arguing that by mentoring a
teenager, you somehow gain the right to seduce her.
I also think that there will be mention of how he struggled
with her age in their relationship and i find that difficult to believe,
although I would truly like to. But if there had been such a struggle, I think
the relationship would have taken much longer to progress than it did. and I
also think that such a struggle is not really inline with posting images of her
online in her underwear in poses and slowly stripping, for all to see…
…and for her to no doubt regret if [and i truly hope not]
she is ever found out in real life.
mispeale muidugi herr master pidi oma meheau kaitsma, sest ühe keskeakriisis vanamehe jaoks on ju ikka kõige olulisem karja netisõltlaste arvamus:
You may publish this. In fact, please do.
Your post and last emails to me don’t strike me, frankly, as
being worthy of a reply, but I would like to say a few things anyway. You are
clearly bringing your own perspective (another word for that is “baggage”) to
the situation and to my relationship. That is fine. It is certainly your right
to do so. You may have any opinion you wish and share it with anyone you want
to. However, what I do resent is the implication that I somehow tricked or
manipulated her into a sexual relationship. Your email said I moved the
relationship from a mentoring relationship to a sexual one, and that is simply
untrue. I approached her with no pretense from the beginning. She obviously
knew my interests from my tumblr and, by virtue of her reading and commenting
on my tumblr, shared at least some of those interests. From the beginning I
expressed my potential interest in her with no deceit. There was no seduction
or trickery involved.
Was she manipulated or tricked by hypnosis? Lol no. That’s
absurd, Ellie, and you should be ashamed of yourself for implying that. We had
crossed many bridges before that point and she knew full well what we were
doing.
Was her age a barrier? Not significantly, no. Perhaps you’re
misled by her tumblr which is only one small facet of her personality and may
make her seem younger than she has seemed at any point in my interaction with
her before.
Am I doing good for her? I certainly hope so. I spend a lot
of my time thinking about that question, and I have worked very hard to try to
do good for her. This, of course, is my deepest fear—that I might be hurting
her in some way. I hope not, and I will certainly continue to do the best I can
to be the best I can for her. That’s all I can do… really, that’s all anyone
can do for anyone else.
I am surprised and saddened to see you so closed-minded on
this issue. She is not a child. Should we have waited longer? Ok, you tell me,
since you are qualified to make such decisions about what is acceptable and
what is not, how much longer would have been appropriate? Six months? A year?
Two years? Five? Why do you pick whatever arbitrary time makes this acceptable
to you? If only I had had your guidance earlier…
I don’t think this is a question of the community, but of
your own closed-mindedness. I’m sorry this has completely reversed your opinion
of me and I am now, in your mind, a horrible person hurting a child. Anyone who
would hurt anyone, and certainly a child, is a reprehensible person, but I am
not that person. As for you leaving tumblr, well, I’ve encouraged you to stay
at least two other times you thought about walking away.
At this point, I think I can say to you, “yes, Ellie. Move
along. There is nothing for you here.” As I said in my last (and I do mean “my
last”) email to you, I truly wish you all the best. Be well. Goodbye.
Terv.
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